Freedom begins by telling the
truth about what we think, how we feel, what we’ve done and what we want. Often
we lie via silence. Telling ourselves a lie, (I don’t want to hurt their
feeeeelings. OR I don’t want to have a conflict) to justify how much we keep our mouths shut, while our jaws clench
and our gut churns as we try to smile and nod our way through.
Meanwhile the real reason we zip it, is that
we want to control what others think of us, manipulate the way we present
ourselves and pretend to be the way we think other people want us to be. OMG
how exhausting and crazy is that? What a prisoner of lies we become once we
start using silence while pretending that withholding how we REALLY think and feel is somehow NOT
lying. Wake up. Be who you really are. Be visible and real and allow people to
love and appreciate the Real You, warts and all. Your real friends will be
relieved and happy. Your fake friends will be gone like smoke in the wind. And
you will be free.
You can't change anyone.
For your own sanity (and frankly, to be in touch with reality) you have got to
give up hoping, wishing, manipulating, teaching, leading and convincing other
people to change. In fact, when you really accept that managing your OWN life
is a full time job, you will find that you automatically lay off the people
around you. You will wake up. There's
something wonderful and freeing about this process.
Now, when you Do revise the
way you think and react, the people around you will shift. You can’t change them, but when you transform your own understanding, when
you change your relationship ‘dance’ every person in your life will
respond. Some will respond effortlessly and subconsciously,
some with a knowing smile, and others will resist every new step.
When you wake inside your life you will also offer a subconscious invitation to
everyone you know to wake a little bit. Many will welcome the shift in you,
others will get mad. A few may vanish. Then you will find yourself surrounded
by people who are wake and supportive.
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